May 21, 2021 6 min read

What is it that separates the people who seem to win at everything in life from the people who perpetually struggle?

The answer is simple...

Mental toughness.

Winners understand that they will face times of adversity in their lives...

But no matter how difficult things get, they push through...

They have trained their mental toughness to be equipped to tackle any situation.

Average people let these problems consume them and dictate their direction in life.

They let their losses, events from their past, and negative experiences sentence them to a life of misery.

These are the same people who play the victim card.

They think life is a lottery that they didn't win.

Deep down, they know the truth...

The real reason they can't make ends meet is because they don't execute on the things they need to do every day.

They lack the grit and mental toughness necessary to take control of their lives.

So ... how can you develop the mental toughness to be able to push through any challenge or obstacle, and ultimately succeed in life?

What is Mental Toughness?

Mental toughness is a skill that must be developed by doing difficult things consistently...

Not once...

Not twice...

Not over a short period of time...

It has to be practiced and built every day for the rest of your life.

Mental toughness also isn't a skill you are born with, or magically come by as you age...

You have to constantly be training your mental toughness.

It's not going to be easy, but it will be worth it.

If you're unsure of what you need to do to start building mental toughness...

Here are 6 ways to do it:

1. Face Your Fears

We all have fears...

If you want to build your mental toughness, you have to face them.

Fear is what keeps most people from accomplishing amazing things in life.

If you let your fear of failure keep you from starting a business...

You could be keeping yourself from the best decision you could ever make for your career.

If you let your fear of humiliation keep you from approaching someone at the bar...

You could miss out on the strongest, most meaningful relationship of your life.

When it comes to training your mental toughness...

Addressing these fears head-on helps you to build more strength through your experiences.

Plus, when you face your fears and overcome them, you'll get an instant feeling of confidence and self-belief while you're at it.

2. Turn Your Excuses Into Triggers

We all have thoughts that pop up in our head like this…

“It’s just one piece of cake … one cheat meal isn't going to hurt me.”

“I don’t have to make those calls today … it won’t be a big deal if I just do them tomorrow.”

“I worked hard yesterday … I deserve to take it easy today.”

But how do you really feel when you give in to these thoughts?

When I've done this in the past, I feel weak ... I feel like I'm letting myself down.

You should too, because this little voice will ruin your life if you let it.

A great way to build mental toughness is by taking these thoughts, and using them to pivot into productive action.

If you make the decision to eat chicken and broccoli instead of the cake, you're training your mental toughness.

If you send the emails now instead of pushing them off, you’re training your mental toughness.

Always act against the weak voice in your head...

When you do this, you are teaching your brain to choose the difficult, more rewarding option that will help you build the life you truly want.

3. Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

As humans, we are either constantly evolving or decaying...

When you aren’t trying to step outside of your comfort zone to learn something new or challenge yourself...

Your skillset is depreciating.

That's why putting yourself in uncomfortable situations is so crucial...

It's the best way to train your mental toughness and develop new skills.

When I talk about getting comfortable with being uncomfortable...

What I'm really saying is you have to get used to always feeling uncomfortable.

If you have been doing the same thing at work for months on end without picking up more responsibility or putting in more effort…

Do you think you are getting better at your job ... or worse?

If you aren't doing new things to increase your value, you are really just falling into the trap of complacency.

4. Focus On What You Can Control

There are some things in life that are completely out of your control…

The weather…



The list goes on.

But instead of getting upset when these factors don’t play in your favor...

Focus on the things that you CAN control ... and set yourself up for success.

Coming to terms with these situations you can't control, and taking action elsewhere, is a great way to build your mental toughness.

You may not be able to control if it’s raining outside or not, but you can control the clothes you wear to be prepared for the conditions.

You may not be able to control emergency situations that pop up, but you can have a plan mapped out in case they do.

You will find a lot of peace and mental strength when you can learn to let go of the things that aren’t in your control, and double down on everything that is in your control.

You’ll soon find out that there is a lot more that you can control than you originally thought.

5. Stay True To Your Word

When you make promises to yourself and others … keep them.

It doesn’t matter what comes up…

What excuses you make...

How challenging the task is...

When you execute on the things you say you’re going to do, it will help build your mental toughness.

Keeping the promises you make to yourself is also a great way to increase your confidence.

The tasks that require discipline are great for training your mental toughness...

Especially on days when you don't feel like doing them.

Way too many people are willing to make compromises on things that shouldn’t be compromised.

Don’t be one of these people.

6. Do Something New and Challenging

The same reason why getting uncomfortable helps build your mental toughness, is the same reason why trying new things can help build your mental toughness…

Since it’s new, you have to prove to yourself that you can do it.

It’s going to be a difficult process that will likely cause you to struggle…


Growth comes from struggle.

The possibilities are endless when it comes to trying something new and challenging.

It could be running a marathon, taking on a new responsibility at work, or building a new habit.

If you’re not exactly sure where to start or what you should do…

75 HARD is a great option.

In fact, there is no better way to train your mental toughness.

75 HARD is a program designed to help you develop mental toughness, along with other skills like confidence, self-belief, fortitude, perseverance, and much more...

It will literally teach you how to take complete control of your life.

Start Training Your Mental Toughness Now

The best time to start building your mental toughness is right now.

Quit waiting for the ideal conditions to take action...

They will never come along, and time will pass by much quicker than you think.

The more you train your mental toughness, the closer you get to the life you want.

If you want to live life on your terms, having mental toughness is not optional.

Being mentally tough molds you into a high performer that gets the job done ... no matter what.

Start building the skills that will help you dominate in your personal and professional life.


#75HARD: A Tactical Guide To Winning The War With Yourself

I've spent more than 25 years figuring out how to master mental toughness and I've put everything I've learned into a program called 75 HARD. In today's episode, I tell you what it's all about and how to 100x skills such as confidence, self-belief, discipline, grittiness & completely transform your life.

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