Mental toughness is the difference between changing your life for the better and staying the same. That’s why it’s so important to develop mental toughness and to keep growing mentally.
The best way to develop mental toughness is to adopt the habits and traits of mentally tough people. But what do mentally tough people look like? How do they act? What do they do?
This is what they do...
Here’s a fact that everyone needs to accept: Life is unfair. Every day, you will face obstacles and challenges that will push you to your limits. It happens to everyone.
You’re not special.
The fact is, we can’t sit around and feel sorry for ourselves. Sure, we can get mad when these things happen to us, but use that anger productively to make your life better instead of sitting around, doing nothing, and feeling sorry for yourself.
Sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself has never made anyone’s life better.
So get up and get moving.
Let’s be real. Change is hard.
If you’re overweight and out of shape, it’s hard to follow a nutrition plan, work out, and lose weight.
Change is uncomfortable and challenging, no one’s arguing that.
But improving your life requires change.
So, if you're going to work on making things better for yourself, you have to start embracing change.
Don't look at change as additional struggles you have to work through. Think of it as an opportunity to grow and become a better version of yourself.
Let's say you have Diabetes for example. That sucks. But you can’t really control the fact that your body doesn’t manage blood sugar like it used to.
But what can you control?
You can control how much you exercise. You can control what you eat. You can control how much water you drink. You can even control whether or not you take the meds the doctor gives you.
Sure, Diabetes might not be in your control, but everything related to it is.
And that’s the key when it comes to becoming mentally tough.
Of course, you need to be aware of all the things that are affecting you and your life, but you can’t dwell on the things you can’t change. You have to focus on the things you can control and let the universe handle the things you can’t.
Focusing on the things that you can't control is not only a waste of your time, but it can hold you back from becoming the best version of yourself.
Practice makes perfect. That’s the old saying, and it’s true. You’ll never really get mentally tough unless you’re willing to face your past (including all of the stupid things you did), learn from it, and do better next time. There’s no real way around it.
No, you shouldn't dwell on the past and let it negatively affect your mindset, but you need to learn from it so you don’t make the same mistakes again and again.
By using your past experiences as a way to learn what NOT to do, you can better recognize when a situation isn't going to benefit your future growth, and fix it.
If you want to avoid a cycle of repeating bad mistakes over and over again, you need to be self-aware enough to not repeat those mistakes.
You need to take risks in life. If you have goals ... which you must if you're reading this blog ... the only way to make a change is to take a risk. You're going to have to get uncomfortable, but also know when to draw the line.
People who are mentally tough know how to put themselves and their goals first. They know how to say no to people who are holding them back. Mentally strong people also know when to step on the gas and truly go after their goals.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is say "no" to something that doesn't benefit you or your future success.
This can be uncomfortable for you, if you are telling a friend or loved one "no", but it is a necessary part of your success ... and can pay huge dividends toward your success in the long run.
Our society tries to tell us what success looks like...
Go to college...
Get a job working 9-5 to make someone else money...
Do these things, and you'll be able to buy an average home in an average neighborhood with an average white picket fence and an average yard.
All of that is great ... and maybe that’s what you want.
The thing is, a lot of people want more than that. They want to start their own business and be their own boss, drive their dream car, live in their dream house, etc.
If that's you, that's awesome!
But those things are not given to you. You have to earn them as they take a lot of time, money, effort, and mental toughness to achieve.
Why? Because a lot of people who don’t share your vision won’t see it as you working toward your dreams. They’ll tell you you’re wasting your time and you need to start taking life seriously. They'll try to drag you down with them, because they feel threatened that you're trying to become better than they are.
But you know what you want...
Don’t let them fool you into thinking that you're failing.
Define what success means to you, and chase it with everything you've got.
Change comes at a cost.
The cost of losing weight is working out and following a nutrition plan consistently.
The cost of a big paycheck is long hours and weekends.
No matter what you want to do, it’s going to cost you something.
You're going to have to sacrifice things that you may not want to, and it may get uncomfortable...
But that sacrifice is necessary for you to reach your goals and live the life you want to live.
Mentally tough people learn how to deal with discomfort and use the pressure it creates as a driving force to perform better.
You may even want to seek out discomfort from time-to-time to make sure you continue to grow and improve your mental toughness ... and life.
Nobody ever changes anything by being mentally weak. Change and success requires a ton of mental strength, and if you’re not there yet, you won’t see the change you want to see in your life.
You’ve got to put the effort into becoming mentally tough or nothing will change.
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