December 27, 2020 6 min read

No matter who you are or what you do...

Life is going to be hard, and it's going to present you with times and situations that are extremely hard.

The biggest difference between the people who make it through these hard times and the people who don't?

Mental toughness.

Mental toughness is the difference between changing your life for the better ... and staying where you're at right now.

It's a skill you can cultivate to propel you toward building the life you truly want vs staying stuck where you are...

It's rejecting self-wallowing and pity...

It's choosing the uncomfortable situations that promote growth vs seeking comfort...

It's the ability to endure though the pain and struggle no matter how badly you want to quit...

That's mental toughness.

How To Develop Mental Toughness

Just like elite athletes train and practice to strengthen their muscles and increase endurance, mentally tough people have worked to develop their mental strength.

The best way to develop mental toughness is to adopt the habits and traits of these mentally tough people...

But what do mentally tough people look like?

How do they act?

What do they do?

This is what they do...

1. Mentally tough people don’t feel sorry for themselves

Here’s a fact that you need to accept: Life is not fair.

Every day, you will face obstacles and challenges that will push you to your limits. It happens to everyone.

You’re not special.

The fact is, you can’t sit around and feel sorry for yourself.

Sure, you can get mad when these things happen to you...

But use that anger productively to make your life better ... instead of sitting around, doing nothing, pissing and moaning about how bad you have it.

Sitting around and feeling sorry for yourself has never made anyone’s life better.

So get up and get moving.

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2. Mentally tough people embrace change

Let’s be real ... Change is hard.

If you’re overweight and out of shape ... it’s going to be hard to consistently follow a nutrition plan, exercise, and lose weight.

Change is uncomfortable and challenging...

But improving your life requires change.

If you want to work on making things better for yourself ... you have to start embracing change.

Don't look at change as additional struggles you have to work through...

Think of change as an opportunity to grow and become a better version of yourself.

3. Mentally tough people focus on what they can control

Let's say you have Type 1 Diabetes...

That sucks ... but you can’t really control the fact that your body doesn’t manage blood sugar on its own.

But what can you control?

You can control how much you exercise.

You can control what you eat.

You can control how much water you drink.

You can even control whether or not you take the meds the doctor gives you.

So, while the diabetes itself might not be in your control, everything related to it is.

That’s the key when it comes to becoming mentally tough.

You need to be aware of all the things that are affecting you and your life ... but you can’t dwell on the things you can’t change.

You have to focus on the things you can control, and let the universe handle the things you can’t.

Focusing on the things that you can't control is not just a waste of your time...

It can actually hold you back from becoming the best version of yourself.

4. Mentally tough people learn from the past, and grow from it

Practice makes perfect.

We've all heard that hundreds of times ... and it’s true...

You’ll never develop mental toughness unless you’re willing to face your past (including all of the stupid things you did), learn from it, and do better next time.

There’s no real way around it...

But, you shouldn't dwell on the past and let it negatively affect your mindset...

Instead, you need to learn from it so you don’t make the same mistakes again and again.

By using your past experiences as a way to learn what NOT to do ... you can better recognize when a situation isn't going to benefit your future growth, and fix it.

If you want to avoid a cycle of making the same mistakes over and over again ... you need to be self-aware enough to not repeat those mistakes.

5. Mentally tough people set boundaries for themselves ... and hold them

You need to take risks in life.

If you have goals ... which you must if you're reading this ... the only way to make a change is to take a risk.

You're going to have to get uncomfortable, but also know when to draw the line.

People who are mentally tough know how to put themselves and their goals first.

They know how to say no to people who are holding them back.

Mentally strong people also know when it's time to step on the gas and go after their goals.

The best thing you can do is say "no" to things that don't benefit you, or your future success.

This can be uncomfortable for you at first...

But as you come to realize how much saying "no" can help you ... you'll have no problem saying it to people when it's necessary.

6. Mentally tough people define their own success

Our society tries to tell us what success looks like...

Go to college...

Get a job working 9-5...

Do these things ... and you'll be able to buy an average home...

In an average neighborhood...

With an average white picket fence...

And an average yard.

All of that is great ... and honestly, it's everything that most people want...

But you're not like most people.

Your goals are much higher than that...

But the best things in life are not given to you...

You have to earn them ... and it will require a great deal of mental toughness to make it all happen.


Because most people who don’t understand your vision won’t see it as you working toward your dreams...

They’ll tell you that you’re wasting your time ... and you need to start "taking life seriously."

They'll try to drag you down to their level ... because they feel threatened that you're trying to become better than they are.

But you know what you want...

Don’t let them fool you into thinking that you're failing ... or wasting your time.

Define what success means to you, and chase it with everything you've got.

7. Mentally tough people learn how to live with discomfort

Change comes at a cost.

The cost of a big paycheck is working long hours to become a person of true value and significance...

The cost of being good at a sport is hours of practicing and drills...

The cost of losing weight is working out and following a nutrition plan consistently...

The cost of a big paycheck is working long hours and weekends...

No matter what you want to do, there's always a price.

You will have to sacrifice things that you may not want to ... and it may get uncomfortable...

But that sacrifice is necessary for you to reach your goals and live the life you want to live.

Mentally tough people learn how to deal with discomfort, and use the pressure it creates as a driving force to perform better.

It's even good to seek out discomfort from time-to-time...

It helps you continue to grow and improve your mental toughness.

Mentally Tough People Rule The World

Nobody ever does anything great by being mentally weak.

Change and success requires a ton of mental strength.

You’ve got to put the effort into becoming mentally tough, or nothing will change.

If you're ready to take on the challenge to strengthen your mental toughness ... try 75 HARD.

You will be amazed at how tough you are and how mentally tough you can become.

Start developing your mental toughness today with 75 HARD.


#75HARD: A Tactical Guide To Winning The War With Yourself

I've spent more than 25 years figuring out how to master mental toughness and I've put everything I've learned into a program called 75 HARD. In today's episode, I tell you what it's all about and how to 100x skills such as confidence, self-belief, discipline, grittiness & completely transform your life.

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