When you first get started on your journey to becoming successful and fulfilling your maximum potential...
You know nothing, have no experience, and don't know what it's going to take.
For all of these reasons and more, you're humble.
That's because you know you have a lot to learn and improve on in order to get where you want to go.
But what happens to most people as soon as they start making progress, accumulate some wins, and get to a comfortable spot?
They begin to think their success is because of them ... and that they’re special.
Sure enough, as soon as they adopt this mindset ... their focus shifts away from the habits and game plan that got them where they are.
This is when they start to lose.
The reality is ... their success has nothing to do with them. Their success is simply a reflection of the actions they took to get there.
Most people will look at these people as if they are confident and capable...
But they are not confident...
They are arrogant.
...and if you truly want to be successful in every area of your life...
You have to avoid falling victim to the same trap.
Confidence will help you win, whereas arrogance will get you killed.
So ... what's the difference, and how do you become someone who is truly self-confident instead of arrogant?
Here's everything you need to know...
Confidence is a skill that you earn, and is something that most people are not born with.
It comes from execution...
It comes from doing hard things...
It comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself...
But it's also a perishable skill, meaning if you don't continually do things to improve your confidence...
Your confidence will diminish over time.
True confidence is a sense of security in your ability to execute and accomplish hard things.
It's understanding that while you may not know everything or be the most highly skilled human on planet earth...
You still have what it takes to be great as long as you execute and keep improving yourself.
Arrogance is much different.
I like to think of it as a false sense of confidence.
Arrogant people think they know more than other people ... and they think they are more important than other people...
Neither of which are true!
As opposed to it being a skill that you must earn ... arrogance is a toxic character trait that you can either develop or express as a result of your insecurities or accomplishments.
Winners have real, hard-earned confidence.
Losers have arrogance.
But how can you tell if someone is either arrogant or confident ... including yourself?
Well, there are 2 specific things you should pay attention to...
One of the best ways to tell the difference between confidence and arrogance can be found in how they react to what other people think about them.
People who are truly confident aren't worried about what other people think.
Even if they don't have the approval of anybody else, it's irrelevant ... they only need their own approval.
On the other hand, arrogant people are deeply concerned about what other people think.
A lot of this has to do with their own insecurities. Having the approval of others makes them feel better about themselves.
Arrogant people will even expect people to like, respect, and approve of them.
So ask yourself, are you constantly seeking and expecting the approval of others?
Or, are you so comfortable with yourself that you don't need anyone else's approval?
This will give you a starting idea of whether you're confident or arrogant.
Even though most people think that being confident means that you are less humble ... that couldn't be further from the truth.
Unlike what other people may tell you ... humility has nothing to do with concealing your wins or abilities.
True humility is the understanding that no matter how good you get or how skilled you become...
You will always have a lot to learn and improve on.
This is something that all confident people feel about themselves. They have a deeply rooted sense of humility which helps them execute and improve.
Now, if you've ever met someone who is arrogant, they are the polar opposite.
Because of their inflated sense of self-importance, arrogant people lack humility.
They're convinced that they know it all and are much more skilled than they actually are. This mindset ultimately keeps them from being able to have honest conversations to improve themselves.
Consider how you feel about yourself and your own abilities.
Are you humble ... or are you convinced that you know it all?
Would you consider yourself confident or arrogant?
Or, would you consider yourself neither?
When you sit down and do an honest evaluation of yourself ... you'll find the truth.
If you continually challenge yourself, keep your promises, and execute ... chances are you've earned the right to feel confident about yourself, or you’re on the right path.
If you've executed enough, but haven't been able to control your ego ... chances are you're quite arrogant as a result.
Now, no matter which one you are currently, you always have the opportunity to change it.
If you're looking to build confidence, which you should be, you need to earn it ... and it's earned through your actions.
Do difficult things to prove to yourself what you're truly capable of and start building your confidence.
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How many people do you know who won't go out to try that one thing because they're scared of failing...
If I had to guess...
I'm sure you know quite a few.
I do too.
It's not uncommon to fear failure...
I truly believe that self-belief is one of the most powerful tools we all have access to.
The problem is, most people see belief as this magical entity that comes and goes at random.
The truth is, we manufacture our own self-belief.
It's through this manufactured self-belief that we're able to go out and accomplish amazing things in our lives...
We've all heard the saying "fake it till you make it."
They say if you make a conscious effort to be something you aren't ... eventually you'll become that person.
That's not how it works.
Pretending to be something you aren't is always a losing strategy...