May 08, 2022 4 min read

If you truly want to be successful in every area of your life...

There is one skill you MUST possess...

...and that skill is self-awareness.

I want to start by saying that I think a lot of people are confused by what self-awareness actually is...

These people talk about self-awareness with literally zero self-awareness...

Which is pretty ironic.

A lot of people just think self-awareness is something that it isn't.

Let me explain...

What Is Self-Awareness?

Self-awareness is an understanding of where you are, who you are, and what you are...

And if you are ever going to get where you want to go in life...

Self-awareness is the first step in the process.

It also allows you to understand what you're good at ... and what you need to improve on, which is extremely important for your development as a person.

It is also crucial to have self-awareness if you want to be a leader.

You have to recognize what you're great at ... as well as what other people are great at...

Then, you have to figure out how to make all your skills work in harmony ... like the conductor of a big orchestra.

Self-awareness is a critical part of taking control of your life and achieving all of your goals, no matter what aspect they happen to be in.

…but how do you become more self-aware?

How To Build Self-Awareness

The answer is very simple…

You have to question your actions and decisions as they’re happening.

Here’s an example…

As you’re eating a donut, ask yourself this…

"Is eating this donut going to help me with my weight loss goals?"

It won't.

When you walk over a piece of trash on the ground, ask yourself this…

"Is walking over this piece of trash on the ground going to help increase my personal standards?"

It won't.

If you're mindlessly completing tasks at work, ask yourself this...

"Is going through the motions going to get me to the next step in my career?"

It won't.

You have to be aware of what actions will allow you to get on track to achieving your goals ... and which ones will actually hold you back.

This is a very important concept for you to not only understand, but to practice as well.

Here’s why…

Why Self-Awareness Is Important

If you want to get anywhere in life, you first have to know where you are...

What you're capable of...

What you're good at...

...and what you're not good at.

So many people like to cover this with justifications.

“Oh, I wasn't born smart.”

“I wasn’t born gifted.”

“Everybody hates me.”

“I can’t control this or that.”

You have to be aware that these are all excuses, and they're just stories that you've told yourself. These stories won't allow you to progress toward where you want to go.

This is also why your confidence is probably low.

When you build your self-awareness, you also build your confidence.

What does that mean?

Well, when you have a high level of confidence, you stop doubting yourself over time.

But on the other hand ... you don't overestimate yourself either.

It's about reality.

It's not about what you think you might be...

It's not about what your friends think you are...

It's not about what your parents think you are…

It’s about what you actually are.

…and once you can identify that...

You can improve.

That’s why self-awareness is so important.

Self-Awareness and Confidence

Becoming self-aware and building your confidence go hand-in-hand.

You have to ask yourself as things are happening whether they are serving you ... or not serving you.

Is this moving me closer to where I want to be, or is this moving me further away from where I want to be?

This is what it looks like in real life as you are doing it…

I'm talking about as you're standing at the counter of McDonald's and you're looking up at the menu thinking, "I know I shouldn't be eating this."

Then you don't.

That's being self-aware, and following through on the actions that your self-awareness sparks in your brain…

Which happens to give you a massive amount of confidence.

All because you're keeping yourself accountable to the promises you've made to yourself.

Ask Yourself These Questions...

Are you even aware of how much confidence you have ... or don't have?

Are you good at your craft?

Are you bad at your craft?

Are you mediocre at your craft?

Are you a beginner?

Are you an expert?

Where can you improve?

What can you do to improve?

What are you doing to improve?

These are all questions that help you build self-awareness.

Another simple trick to building your confidence, self-respect, and self-awareness is to ask for feedback from your peers.

This is something I do constantly.

I constantly ask my team for real, truthful feedback.

If you become the person who asks yourself these questions...

...and if you become the person who's analyzing your actions...

You develop the ability to self-coach yourself, because you're aware of your strengths, your weaknesses, and what you need to do to be successful.

More About Self-Awareness

Here’s the idea…

The more you go through this process of self-evaluation ... the more you learn about yourself, your strengths, and where your weaknesses are.

Not only do you learn about yourself and where your strengths and weaknesses are...

You become more confident in your ability to address and correct those strengths and weaknesses.

When you reach the top level of confidence, there's really nothing that can destroy you.

That’s because you understand what you're great at ... you understand what other people are great at ... and you understand that for you to solve big problems...

You’re going to need people with different (and sometimes better) skill sets than you to get the job done.

Self-Awareness Is Critical

You can't improve…

You can’t win…

…and you certainly can’t be great unless you’re extremely self-aware.

Start monitoring your actions in real-time.

Start asking yourself questions after you do something.

Start breaking down your actions like a quarterback watching game film.

Ask yourself ... “How did this interaction go?”

This is what self-awareness looks like in real-time.

It's basically developing your ability to coach yourself and self-evaluate in real time.

…and if you can’t do this, you can’t win.

So take the time to do whatever it is you must do to make sure you're committing yourself to becoming more self-aware.

…and your life will dramatically change as a result.

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