December 23, 2020 4 min read

Self-respect is important.

It makes you see who you actually are.

It gives you the courage to do the things you want to do.

But how do you build self-respect if you don’t have it?

Let's get into it...

How To Build & Gain Self-Respect

We all want to be respected...

You probably even wish you respected yourself more.

Here are some ways you can work to develop your self-respect ... which can even lead to others respecting you more.

Stick to your beliefs and values

You won’t agree with everyone all the time ... it's impossible.

There’s nothing wrong with coming to a compromise with others...

But, there’s a BIG difference between mutual compromise, and abandoning your beliefs and values.

While you should be open-minded enough to listen to the perspective of other people...

Make sure you stick to your beliefs when someone is trying to get you to abandon them.

You must take a stand for what you believe in.

Take care of yourself

Families require some degree of self-sacrifice...

So do friendships and businesses...

But before you take care of anyone else...

It's very important that you take care of yourself first.

If you give all of your energy to others, you won't have enough left in the tank for yourself.

I've made this mistake hundreds of times...

Believe me when I say it's a bad position to put yourself in.

When you can't give anymore of your time & energy to others ... make sure you draw a line in the sand.

You need to recognize that you have to take care of yourself, and that there are times when other people need to figure out how to handle their own problems.

Letting people fix their own problems will actually help them become more self-confident.

People will high self-respect know when to draw the line and take care of themselves.

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Do what you set out to do

If you say you are going to do something, do it.

The world is filled with people willing to talk the talk...

What we actually need, are more people who are willing to walk the walk and take action.

Nobody wants to get up 30 minutes earlier every morning to go on a run...

Nobody wants to turn down french fries...

Nobody wants to work 12 hours every day to get their new business off the ground...

But, if you really want the things you say you want ... that's what you have to do.

Once you make the decision to do something, the time for talking stops, and the time for doing starts.

People respect those who do the work.

Work on your weaknesses

Nobody is perfect.

Not you...

Not me...

Not your neighbor...

Not your least successful friends...

And not your most successful friends.

We all have flaws that we can work on.

The difference between doers and whiners is that doers work on self-improvement ... while whiners use their flaws as an excuse to be average.

It’s so much easier to say “I can't do it, because I have [insert problem]”...

Instead of saying, “I haven’t achieved [insert goal] because I’m not good enough yet, but I’m working on it.”

Imagine how much respect you’d gain for yourself if you improved your skills even just a little bit every day?

Progress breeds self-respect, and self-respect breeds more progress...

But you have to start by putting the work in.

Take opportunities when you find them

You know what’s scary?

Taking on an opportunity when there’s a chance that you might fail.

You know what’s even scarier?

The feeling of regret when you look back on the opportunities that you passed up.

People who command respect, command it because they take chances.

Sometimes they succeed...

Many times they fail...

But they never back down from an opportunity.

There will always be people who criticize what you do...

The reality is, most of them only do it because they’re too scared to try it themselves...

Those people are insecure about their lives.

That said, if you continue to take on new opportunities as they're presented to you ... you’ll eventually gain the respect of the right people, and respect for yourself.

Accept Yourself As You Are

This isn’t some rainbow & unicorns, feel-good idea.

I don’t mean that everyone is a unique snowflake and special in their own right.

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We all have room for improvement...

But, we need to accept that we are who we are.

Be honest about who you are...

Be honest about what your problems are...

And be honest about where you want to be one day.

Work toward your goals ... and be honest about the progress you’re making (or not making.)

When you accept who you are, you can objectively measure the positive change you’re making in your life...

And when you can measure that change, your self-respect will start to improve.

Balance who you are with what you do

You are not a failure...

You are not perfect either...

You are a combination of things you want to do...

The things you do right...

And the things you do wrong.

You need to recognize all of those different parts of you...

And find ways to constantly improve...

But don’t beat yourself up too badly when you fall short.

It’s always better to learn from your mistakes and move forward, than to focus on the worst parts of your failure(s) all the time.

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Don’t take shit from anyone, including yourself

People who have a healthy sense of self-respect know what they want...

And they know what they’re worth...

But don’t walk around with an ego and fail to listen to other people’s feedback.

However, you need to learn the difference between genuine feedback ... and someone just trying to bring you down.

Have the self-respect to cut out any negativity ... no matter where it's coming from.

People Who Respect Themselves Are Respected By Others

If you want to earn the respect of others, start by developing self-respect.

Your opinion of you matters more, and will have a greater impact on your success than the opinions of any other person on earth.

If you want to become the best version of yourself, and gain complete control of your life, start the 75 Hard program today.

75 Hard can help you develop the skillset you need to become the consistent, tough, self-improving performer that you want to be.

Through 75 Hard, you'll be amazed at how much self-respect you gain along the way.



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