April 20, 2021 3 min read

Your self-esteem has an influence on every part of your life.

If you have a strong belief in your ability to do anything...

You’ll have the confidence to take more risks…

Try new things…

Learn more lessons…

And increase your likelihood to become successful as a result.

It takes a lot more than you think to develop and maintain self-esteem.

But I’ll show you exactly what you need to do to develop this skill.

WHAT IS SELF-ESTEEM?

Self-Esteem is confidence in your ability to do anything.

It’s having complete certainty in your capability and your potential.

Having self-esteem is crucial when it comes to doing new and challenging things.

What most people don’t understand, is that having self-esteem isn’t as simple as just starting to believe in yourself out of nowhere…

It isn’t easy or automatic…

It doesn’t matter what you see on the internet about “self-love”...

Or “self-acceptance”...

You will never develop inner peace, self-esteem, and enlightenment this way...

It's all a lie.

If you've done nothing to earn self-esteem...

You don't deserve it.

This is a universal principle that can be applied to anything.

If you did nothing to earn $100...

You don't deserve $100.

Always remember this…

All great things in life are earned.

And self-esteem is no exception...

You can’t just wish for it.

How can you be confident in your ability to do new and difficult things if you haven’t done anything difficult to begin with?

You can't.

And that ties in perfectly to the first thing you need to build self-esteem...

BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM BY DOING HARD THINGS

The best way to build self-esteem is by challenging yourself…

Demanding more of yourself…

And doing difficult things to prove to yourself what you are truly capable of.

I’m sure you’re wondering…

"How will doing hard things give me self-esteem?"

Here's how:

Think about your biggest accomplishments in life…

Did they involve a lot of time, work, and effort to accomplish?

If they didn't, you probably haven’t done anything significant yet...

That’s the truth.

But if you have…

You had an overwhelming sense of pride, confidence, and belief in yourself when you completed that difficult thing … didn’t you?

That's because doing difficult tasks creates a strong sense of accomplishment inside of us.

It instills confidence, self-belief, and self-esteem.

All because you kept the promises you made to yourself…

And proved to yourself that you are capable of much more than you think.

But building self-esteem doesn’t stop there...

REMOVE NEGATIVE TALK FROM YOUR LIFE

Successful people think and talk about different things than average people do.

Have you ever noticed this?

Successful people like to talk about success…

Personal growth...

Their mindset...

And they avoid drama at all costs.

But when you start paying attention to how most people operate...

You start to realize that all of their conversations revolve around gossip.

What I mean by this is most people concern themselves so much with what other people are doing & saying…

That they aren’t focused on what’s going on in their own life.

This gossip sucks up most of our energy…

When we should instead be using our energy for something productive.

If there was any guide on how to feel better about your life immediately

It would be this...

Stop gossiping.

When you get looped into gossip that doesn’t serve you … be the voice of reason.

Try to give the other person the benefit of the doubt.

This is actually a great way to train people not to gossip to you.

By removing this negativity, you’ll immediately start to have more self-esteem.

Not just because it’s the right thing to do…

But also because you’ll feel good about actually standing up and having a backbone…

And because you’ll stop cultivating negativity within yourself.

THE BENEFITS OF HIGH SELF-ESTEEM

What if you could be the person who is always taking risks, and being rewarded for taking them?

Or … what if you had so much belief in yourself that you could pursue your biggest dreams and become the person you’ve always wanted to be?

With high self-esteem … this can be you.

You can kick your biggest fears to the curb and tackle any obstacle in your way.

You’ll be completely confident in your ability to do anything, no matter how challenging…

And you’ll start to become the person that you’ve always wanted to be.

All you have to do is start keeping the promises you make to yourself.

Growth comes from the difficult and uncomfortable situations…

Removing negativity…

And pushing past any roadblocks in your way.

With this in mind...

Your self-esteem will skyrocket.



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