7 Ways To Stop Self-Sabotage

December 01, 2021 5 min read

Have you ever thought about why there is only a small percentage of people who actually end up "making it"?

Everyone is capable of fulfilling their potential and winning in life...

But very few actually will.

There are a lot of reasons why people fall short of their goals and dreams...

But there’s one thing that holds more people back than anything else when it comes to their success...

That thing is self-sabotage.

What Is Self-Sabotage?

Self-sabotage is anything we do, or convince ourselves of, that keeps us from reaching our goals and accomplishing anything significant in life.

This is everything from our fears, to our limiting thoughts, misconceptions, and lack of discipline.

If you want to win in life, you have to be able to recognize when your thoughts are holding you back ... and attack them head on.

Through my 20+ years in business and observing why some people become successful and others don’t…

Here are 7 ways you can stop sabotaging yourself...

1. Quit Worrying About What Other People Are Going To Say or Think

Some of the most influential things in our lives are our relationships with others.

They will either make you, or break you, when it comes to your success.

Way too many people let the opinions of others dictate their actions and lifestyle.

These people will never take action or make any progress toward their goals and dreams because they fear what their family, friends, and the people closest to them are going to say or think.

The reason why this is self-sabotage ... is because you are letting an assumption about how others are going to react keep you from doing anything great.

In reality, you have no idea how the people around you are going to act or react to the decisions you make for yourself.

Will some people create resistance? Yes.

If these people aren't going to support you, are they really worth your time and energy anyway?

If you could live the life of your dreams tomorrow based on the actions you take today, you aren't going to care about what your mom, your best friend, or your neighbor are going to say.

A lot more people are going to support you than you think…

So get out of your head, and quit worrying about what other people are going to think or say about you.

2. Eliminate “What If” Thoughts

So many people tell me about starting to work toward their goals, business ideas, or new ventures...

But then they’ll say something like...

“What if (insert unlikely event or situation) happens?”

If you’re one of these people, that's a huge problem.

You are living a life of hypotheticals, instead of focusing on the things you can control.

If you are refusing to chase your dreams because of something that could happen … then make yourself comfortable with living an average life.

It’s important that you don't handicap your success just because there is a possibility that you might trip a few times along the way.

Certain events and circumstances are going to happen, whether you want them to or not.

Why would you let this prevent you from taking action at all?

You won’t have the chance to reach your goals if you never start.

Deal with issues as they come...

Don't speculate on issues that you may never have to encounter.

We all have these thoughts.

You just need to learn how to autocorrect your negative thoughts.

3. Overcome The Fear Of Failure

Some people will never get started, because they're too scared to fail.

This is one of the most common forms of self-sabotage that I see.

If you are one of these people, you have to understand this...

No business…

No idea…

No invention…

No movement…

Nothing that shapes the world today ... would have ever been possible if the people who started them feared failure.

Failure is going to happen regardless, but it is a learning experience that will help you avoid the same mistakes in the future.

Not only is failure your greatest teacher, but it's also a guiding light to help you eventually achieve what you want in your life.

How will you ever know what you could become if you never start?

You won’t.

Quit letting the fear of failure keep you from doing the things you want to do in your life.

4. Come To Terms With Looking Like An Idiot

It doesn’t matter what you’re trying to do or accomplish…

In the beginning, you’re going to look stupid…

So what? Everybody does.

You won’t have any credibility or experience on day one...

That's an unavoidable fact of starting your journey.

Always remember, the best people in the world at any one thing started out as beginners.

What if the Wright brothers decided to quit their idea of a flying machine when they felt like complete morons after each failed attempt?

I know the world would look a lot differently than it does today.

When you learn to embrace this and use it as fuel to propel you to learn and gain experience, you will get infinitely further than the people who use this as a justification to never start.

5. Remove Self-Imposed Limitations

Too many people underestimate themselves, and form perceived limits in every area of their life.

They do this in their relationships...

They do this in their career...

They do this with their fitness...

They do this with everything.

What are the limits that you are setting in your life?

It may be how many hours a week you work…

How far you’re capable of running…

How long you can stay on a diet...

These are all perceived limits … they aren’t your real limits.

When you pinpoint these limits, and purposely push yourself past them, you'll build confidence, and begin to realize that you are capable of much more than you think.

Don’t self-sabotage by putting false limitations in place.

You have to keep your mind right.

6. Ditch Your Entitled Attitude

Having a sense of entitlement won't only sabotage your success...

It will also make you very unhappy.

When you understand that you have to earn every single sliver of your dream...

You won’t get upset or quit when things don’t happen quickly, or when an opportunity doesn’t fall into your lap.

But … if you go through life with a bad attitude, you will never be able to win.

That’s why you have to completely trash the idea that you deserve anything…

Because the truth is ... you don’t.

You can earn it though...

But earning the things you want is going to take a lot of work, and the process of achieving success is going to take much longer than you think.

7. Stop Setting Small And “Attainable” Goals

Most people have no concept of what they can actually accomplish in their life, because they haven’t done much of anything.

This is because these people aren't thinking big enough, which ultimately sabotages their success.

Are you setting enormous goals ... or are you setting goals you know you can accomplish so you don't get disappointed when you don't reach them?

While your goals should constantly be evolving, if you are setting goals that are too easy to accomplish, you won’t be forced to test your limits and uncover what you are truly capable of.

The more you challenge yourself and the more limits you break…

The more self-belief you will build along the way.

So why not set massive goals?

Even if you fall short, you will be that much closer to what you truly want, instead of limiting yourself with a lack of direction or vision.

Quit Self-Sabotaging, Start Taking Action

Your biggest goals and dreams are attainable…

You just have to get out of your own head and recognize your potential.

Quit sabotaging your success by giving into your fears, worrying about what others think, or by thinking too small...

Go out, put in the work, and create the life you truly want through your actions.



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