How To Stop Complaining

Is your life going the way you want it to go?

If not ... why?

Think about your answer for a second...

Are you blaming outside conditions, people, or events for the way your life looks right now?

Or are you taking full responsibility for the life you’re living today?

If you place blame on anyone or anything outside of yourself...

And choose to complain about how “bad you have it”...

Or how “unfair” everything is…

You need to stop immediately.

Whining is never going to help you.

Why You Complain

There’s a simple answer...

You complain because it’s the easy thing to do…

It’s easier to point your finger at something outside of yourself because it protects your ego.

If you pay close attention, you’ll realize that the culture in America today has completely killed personal responsibility...

...and has now become the breeding ground for whiners and complainers.

Understand this...

No matter how much you kick and scream about your situation…

No matter how many times you shout over your circumstances…

No matter how much sympathy you ask for...

Your situation will never improve by complaining or playing the victim...

...but putting in the work will.

Are you ready to stop complaining and pouting?

5 Ways To Stop Complaining and Start Doing

1. Recognize That You Will Never Be Great At Anything From The Start

You’re not the first person to fail, and you won't be the last.

Anytime you go out of your way to try something new…

You’re going to be bad.

Real bad.

Don’t dwell on it.

Social media has done a great job of painting a very unrealistic expectation of what our lives “should” be like...

But what you don’t see is the process.

You assume that these people have a god-given talent or special ability that you don’t…

When in reality, they’ve just put in the work to become highly skilled.

They sucked at one point too.

They chose not to complain about it, and put in the work.

2. Don’t Pity Yourself

Self-pity fuels the fire of complaints...

Plus, nobody cares what you’re frustrated or upset about.

Don’t feed these negative thoughts.

You need to understand that everything that happens in your life, good and bad, is a necessary component for your personal growth.

You’ll either let it make you or break you.

So instead of sitting around and reliving everything that could have gone better, and throwing yourself into a pity cycle…

Use them as a lesson and a way to become better equipped in the future.

Get up, get moving, and get to work…

At least you know you’ll never make the same mistake again.

3. Use Your Complaints As Mental Triggers

Make a habit of replacing the complaints in your head with action against the complaints.

As soon as you catch yourself whining or complaining...

You need to take action to shut down the thought or act against it.

Let’s say you catch yourself thinking...

“I’ll never be skinny because of my genetics”...

You need to step outside the statement…

Recognize that it isn’t true and won’t get you anywhere.

Then, add a little bit more to your exercise routine for the day.

When you can start to recognize your patterns of complaining...

You’ll get better at shutting them down.

4. Start Expressing Gratitude

Instead of looking out the window on a rainy day and thinking, “Well this is going to suck”....

Take inventory about what is great.

You can be grateful to be alive…

You can be grateful for family…

You can be grateful for your hobbies...

You could be grateful for clean water and shelter...

Really anything.

But consciously replacing complaints with gratitude will put the bad habit to rest, and make you a happier person.

5. Don’t Be a Baby

This one’s simple…

If you really want to live a life that is extraordinary … you have to have grit.

You’re not going to curl up in a ball and cry every time you step on a rock or get your feelings hurt.

Quit whining and complaining about the small, insignificant things that happen in your life.

A misstep is not going to throw you off course unless you give it the power to.

Toughen up, don’t whine, and get back to work.

6. Identify & Pursue Your Goals

If you actually take the time to identify your goals...

Consider the daily actions you'll need to take to reach them...

...and start executing...

You won't have time to complain ... All of your focus will shift to whatever it is you're looking to accomplish.

There's a lot more to life than your small and insignificant problems...

So quit agonizing about them.

Commit to something bigger than yourself.

Form and chase massive goals.

Pour your effort and energy into pursuing your potential.

If you don't like the life you have...

Why don't you consider what kind of life you do want ... and go after it?

You're the only person in control of changing your situation, and you change your situation through action.

Complaining won't solve any problems for you.

Trust me on that.

Stop Complaining

At the end of the day, you won't get a thing done if you spend that time complaining.

Complaining is instant gratification.

It may feel good to “validate” yourself … but it's a cheap reward that will last a grand total of 10 seconds.

You're only denying the truth and avoiding responsibility.

The real solution to the problems you're facing can be found in the work you're trying so hard to avoid.

You already know what you need to do.

...You just don't like what you need to do, do you?

None of us do.

Some of us just choose to do it regardless because we understand that the work is what produces the result.

So quit complaining.

If you aren't willing to do the work required ... Accept it for what it is and keep your mouth shut.

If you are willing to do the work required...

Now is the time to start.

Change your mindset.

Change your attitude.

Cut out the complaints.

Start pursuing the life you truly want.

Only then will things change.

Build Mental Toughness

If you want to transform your view and get more out of your life…

You need to develop the skill of mental toughness.

It's the biggest differentiator between all the people who create massive success in life...

...and those who end up trapped in an average existence.

There's also no better skill to build when it comes to stomping out complaints.

Mental toughness puts you in the driver's seat of life.

That's why I recommend you get my book, The Book on Mental Toughness.

Here's the way I see it...

You can keep complaining and live a life of mediocrity. Or, you can stop making excuses and start living the life you want to live. 

It all starts with mental toughness.

You can get your copy of The Book on Mental Toughness here.