December 16, 2022 3 min read

On your journey to success, you're going to have people who doubt you.

You're going to have people who criticize you...

You're going to have people who make comments about you...

You're going to have people who don't believe in you...

You're even going to have people who hate you and want you to lose...

Tune them out.

Focus on yourself and your goals.

These people aren't going to like you no matter what you do.

So why pay any attention to them?

You shouldn't.

Do You Have Haters?

Before I continue, I want to make something very clear...

Unless you've actually done something significant in life, you don't have real haters.

Real haters are people who do things out of pure malice and hatred for you.

Real haters will burn your house to the ground.

Real haters will slash your tires.

Real haters will do anything to slow you down.

So do you have real haters? Probably not.

Again, you have to do something pretty significant to attract real haters.

There’s a huge difference between hate and criticism

…and what you're likely dealing with is criticism from your "friends", family members, and acquaintances.

It's your uncle who says: "You need to get a real job."

It's your buddy from school who says: "You need to be more realistic."

This "hate" is a completely normal part of the process of pursuing success.

Trust me... I got all the same comments when I first started in business.

"Hey Andy, when are you going to get a real job?"

"Hey Andy, who are you trying to be... Tony Robbins?"

"Hey Andy, you still wasting your time with that little vitamin shop?"

I'm glad I didn't listen.

You'll be glad too.

What to Do About Haters

When people take a stab at you, make sure you don't stab back.

It's not worth your time or energy.

When you're trying to accomplish big things in life, there is no room for negativity.

So don't welcome it into your life.

You have no obligation to these people.

You have an obligation to yourself to be the absolute best you can be...

So pour your time and energy into becoming that person.

Everything else is only going to hold you back from achieving your goals, dreams, and personal excellence.

Dealing with "haters" is very simple...

Focus on you.

Their words are irrelevant anyway.

Use Hate Productively

Negative comments and remarks hurt. I understand.

But, you need to develop the skill of harnessing these feelings for productive action.

Take all the frustration, anger, and confusion, and use it to push yourself harder and build your ultimate life.

I have a list of every person who's ever doubted me.

...and every time I don't feel like doing the work I know I need to do...

I remember what those people said to me, and immediately get fired up.

This is a highly underrated form of motivation.

I recommend you use it.

Some people may consider this to be a savage or barbaric method...

But if you're using this anger as fuel to go out and accomplish great things...

Is it actually a bad thing? Not at all.

Your goal should be to prove these people wrong through your actions.

Your goals should be to suffocate them with your wins.

I've built an amazing life for myself because of everyone who bet against me.

You can too.

Tune Them Out

You don't have haters.

Let's be real.

People who criticize you or run their mouth about you are only insecure and uncomfortable about the actions you're taking in your life.

People who doubt you only think this way because they've never been able to accomplish anything in their life.

Neither of these scenarios have anything to do with you.

Their hate is just a reflection of their own insecurities, lack of knowledge, and lack of potential.

Pay them no mind...

But use their words to reach your maximum potential.

Let them hate...

They're only giving you a tool to become even better.

If you want to learn more about success in business and life, check out my podcast.



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