When you experience an extreme situation that presents an obstacle that is hard to overcome, something amazing can happen: it can end up becoming one of the best things that ever happens to you. The process of recovery, the journey of overcoming, can produce qualities in your character and assets you can add to the arsenal you use to achieve the highest levels of success. Bottom line: obstacles are opportunities for greatness. You have to choose to believe that.
Why is it that some people experience terrible, evil things in their lives & they become monsters themselves...while other people go through just the same kind of suffering & sh*t & they are transformed into amazing, good people? I get it. It is hard to take the negatives of life & convert them into positives. It's hard to be wronged & still do the right thing. It's really hard to go through really bad things & become a force for good in the world. But it can be done. You just have to make the choice.