Don't use the popular rhetoric "love yourself" as an excuse to be a lazy piece of shit and say, "I am what I am."
Loving yourself means doing whatever work is required to build yourself into someone you are genuinely proud of.
...Even if it means going through hell to get there.
Do you truly love yourself?
If you can't say yes with 100% certainty...
There's only one way to fix it.
Putting in the work is the ultimate form of self-love.